I asked for her to check out my profile and give me the girl's point of view. She did. And she said that it was too sports oriented. Diane knows me pretty damn well. She knows that I do like sports and they are a part of my life but I am not the kind of guy who sits there, 24/7, tuned into ESPN. She recommended I change it because my profile gave the impression that all I do all day is watch sports.
I took her advice and made a change....
I am looking for someone I can be friends with, but who can also be my lover. I want a partner in crime. I want someone who will laugh with me and at me. I am a goof ball that does not embarrass too easily. And I want someone who will smile when I do those little things that lets a girl know she is special. A physical attraction is something I obviously look for, but a friendship is the most important piece. Without that, any relationship is bound to fall apart.
Now each person has this idea of what is and isn't cute. My best friend has told me that I have a weird definition of what I think is pretty or cute. I explained that someone's personality can make them cute without actually being physically cute. I actually prefer someone who has a cute personality over someone who is just physically cute. If you have both, then I am in big trouble.
As for me, last week someone told me, "You know what your problem is? You're too nice!" I replied that is a good character flaw to have. I'd rather be too nice than be a jerk. Sometimes people take advantage of me. But I don't learn. I continue being nice.
She said that this new profile described me more accurately. I worried about it being too sappy. She said not at all. The new profile is up and active. I will see how it goes. I can always change it later if I don't like the results.
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Well hopefully I'm not 100% wrong. I think you do have to be true to yourself and I didn't say eliminate that you like sports, just to downplay it because women aren't lining up going, oh! oh! I hope he's really into sports!
We're ok that you do, but when we're making decisions about who we want to date we want to know if he'll be sexy, inventive and romantic, true to himself and us. You know, not a door mat but still considerate.
If you're holding out for the small percentage of women who do want that, I say more power to you! But you're gonna have to wait a little longer. If you don't want to wait and you're willing to be with a girl who isn't an enormous sports fan then you down play it a bit and focus on other things she might appreciate. And there are other things to appreciate.
Anyway, try a few variations and don't give up.
Yep. Not giving up. This girl I did recently meet was super cute, super adorable, and had a great personality. But I don't believe the feeling is mutual. Too bad cuz I was digging her.
I got a message from a dude today asking me for brutal honesty and feedback on why he's having horrible results with Match.com. Not a bad guy, but he is a little older than I want and lives too far away. There are a lot of reasons that women are picky and guys aren't. :P
Well, you KNOW how picky I am... And I am a great guy. At least I am told I am. So what the hay?
Hey Eddie -- best of luck with the Match.com thing; dating sucks.
Diane, I don't know you from Adam, but I just wanted to say that some women are really into sports. In fact, I actually have trouble finding a guy who knows as much or more than me about certain sports.
So, I am one of the few (the proud) women who do hope he's really into (albeit certain) sports!
It also looks like Eddie needs a new "race friend", so if he really wants to attract a girl who might be both that and a girlfriend to him, maybe he should accurately depict his interest in NASCAR -- in hopes of finding her. Just a thought.
Jenni
Well, I am hoping to snag them into the NASCAR thing. :-)
If I come right out and admit that then I may scare away a few. My hopes that the girl falls so much in love with me that she will comprise and give up one weekend a year to go to the Homestead race in November... The other 51 weekends I will do whatever she says. :-)
"maybe he should accurately depict his interest in NASCAR -- in hopes of finding her"
I agree. *If* he wants to wait longer. But if he's willing to compromise and date a few women who aren't huge sports fans then he might want to downplay it in the hopes of having a date sooner rather than later. Who knows, they might eventually go to the Nascar races with him and even enjoy it.
Someone like you would see that he likes sports and hope he knows more than you do about them. Someone like me would see that he likes sports and hope he's not a fanatic. We'd both be equally as willing to give him a shot if the rest of the profile fit. You don't want to shut out potential dates. It's not lying or denying who he is, it's increasing his odds.
Didn't mean to speak for all women, I should've lost the "we" in my opinion. That always gets me into trouble. ;)
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